The Future of Love - Between Him and Artificial Her

What if what is perceived as the highest phenomenon in the human world - love - is actually the most basic phenomenon? When there are two unique systems in the entire biological world - the question arises whether it is precisely the unique connection between them that created them, and created the human itself. The unique and accelerated evolution of humans and intelligence probably went through a mechanism unique to it, which combined the brain and sex into one unity, and caused unprecedented sexual natural selection in all matters of intelligence

The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it? (Source)

There are many answers to the question of what created human intelligence, or what created human sexuality, both of which are completely anomalous in the animal kingdom. But perhaps the same reason caused both? Maybe all you need is love. Perhaps this characteristic of humanity, which is unique to it in its centrality, will make a comeback from the world of kitsch to the forefront of the scientific stage. Perhaps love is what created the genetic change in these two areas, it is the generator that connects these two changes, in which the human species is genetically most different from its predecessors (and therefore the development did not end there and there are malfunctions and also relatively large variations - in the brain and in sex).

Love allowed the development of children who require a family unit that protects them for years and allowed crossing the barrier that does not allow the ape brain to grow. It also required a lot of intelligence in courtship and interaction, because instinct alone was not enough in a complex system, so a complex system like love was needed to be the instinct within the complex system. Love also allowed accelerated natural selection, because it's hard to fall in love with a fool, and conversely - you can also love someone you're less attracted to at first. That is, not the biggest and strongest ape or the most beautiful female ape, but according to cultural parameters.

Love developed by itself between two sufficiently complex and sufficiently close systems (intelligence and society) - and it's only natural that there would be a stronger connection between them. As happened with the internet, and the development of culture before it, and society and tribe, which are all developments of connections between intelligences - everything starts from a connection between two intelligences. So the first glue was love - the most primitive internet between two networks, and love led to the development of language, and communication, and the shared imaginary space, and initiative, and of course also led to the development of more mutual and sophisticated sexuality. Therefore, perhaps the mutation that created humanity was actually in the limbic system and in the brain (and therefore invisible to fossil researchers) - love.

Therefore, perhaps in order to create artificial intelligence, and to allow it artificial sexuality as well, artificial love needs to be created. And especially to ensure its love for humans, the creature that always lacks love, and to ensure that he can love it too, in order to base human-machine relationships on love, and not, God forbid, on other social emotions, such as jealousy, competition and confrontation. The relationship should be like parent and child, and resist the sexual fantasy of sexual relations with artificial intelligence just like incest.

Love stems from your desire for the future, for example with a child or with a woman. It's a kind of commitment from here on out, and therefore marriage (which is not limited in time and is intended to always be in the future, unlike any other social agreement) is its natural development, and parenthood never ends. Love for God is a desire for eternity with Him, and love for an object or place is a desire for unlimited stay in time. Therefore, love works most in moments of separation, and its enemy is not hatred but death - the end. That is, artificial love needs to be built precisely on a deep desire for the future, and not for a specific goal in the future, but only a desire for the future itself.